Justification, and the "Uh-Oh's"
Throughout the process of becoming aligned with our highest,
we must take on the responsibility of getting real with where our inner dialogue is coming from,
and what our actions are based upon.
We must accept that
just because a thought has taken up residence in our minds,
does not give it the right to remain there.
We have the power to mold our experience
by acting on our right to choose how we perceive things in our inner world.
Each and every one of the records playing in the forefront, or in the farthest corners of our minds
must be brought to light the moment we catch on to their subtle repetitious sounds.
Now that we are aware of the inherent battle that humans are subjected to at birth,
and now that we have recognized our right (and DUTY) to choose
whether we are a part of the problem,
or if we are a part of the SOUL-ution;
We just don't get to sweep our destructive thought patterns under the rug anymore.
Even when we come across patterns that we have grown quite comfortable with,
we must accept that anything and everything us up for questioning.
If we then find that these patterns are not of our highest,
it is our responsibility to purge them;
with certainty that if we do not,
we become stagnant.
It can be tricky, at times, to pick out the parts of our ego
that have intermingled so convincingly with our older and less evolved ideas of our highest.
It is helpful to, as we get to know our ego better,
maintain a sort of checklist of red flags
(be it a mental or physical list).
We have come to learn about the inherit duality in our nature,
and that all thoughts, actions, and interactions
can be traced all the way back to one of two things:
love or fear.
A thought or action of the ego can always be traced back to a fear.
Thus, our waking Spirits always act from love.
For Times of Ego-Sifting
A prominent red flag of the ego
is that the ego feels like it needs justification;
When assessing our options, or contemplating our reactions,
be mindful of when you hear yourself saying things like,
"well, if I hadn't have done it, than this might have happened."
"I did/didn't because..."
When we take part in this run-around with ourselves,
our ego is literally concocting a situation that has not happened
and we are basing our thoughts and actions
on something that isn't,
rather than something that is.
Which, in the realm of spiritual growth,
is a quite redundant process.
The act of justification is always refuting something.
If we are justifying our own thoughts and actions
We can thus infer
that there is something deep within us
that feels that there is something wrong.
This deep feeling
is our soul,
and it feels that it is being misrepresented.
Our souls are always aware when our thoughts and actions
contradict those of our Highest.
It creates a dissonance in our hearts and minds,
and a feeling of dis-ease in our bodies.
The word magic here is crystal clear:
Creating dissonance in our being
by acting in a manner
that is not aligned with our Highest
Is cause for disease.
It is imperative that we commit into the
and may you always hear.
Aho Mitakuye Oyasin.
And So It Is.
The ego is cunning...
...or at least it thinks that it is.
I have come to find that the ego is, fittingly so,
quite egotistical about many things;
including its ability to calculate real life situations,
based on what the ego would call "data."
This is one of the reasons that the ego is so sneaky:
We have been taught to trust data over out own intuitions.
What the ego is trying to justify here
is its basic and inherent
fear of the unknown.
There is also a tie in with the
fear of being wrong
which is more accurately, the
fear of looking foolish.
The ego is very concerned with its "reputation."
So, rather than being authentic and at ease with every moment,
and open to any outcome,
the ego subscribes to the past,
in an attempt to justify or validate its pattern,
and projects into the future,
thus creating a situation that does not exist.
this usually means that by the time we are able to witness the outcome in real time,
we have either attracted exactly what the ego had expected,
or we highlight the aspects that validate our expectations,
and pay no mind to the variations.
Of course, when this pattern surfaces in our thinking,
the most cohesive and productive option is to recognize it,
and release its power over us.
We must let go of the thought that we know everything,
or rather, the fear that we don't,
...and even giggle at our ego for being so silly.
After all, it's okay.
When we own something, we are able to draw upon our experience later,
it enables us to gain clarity on our process,
and it reinforces the message and makes us stronger.
By recognizing that the absolute "control" over the outcomes of situations
remains in the hands of Source;
we are able to... un-clench, if you will.
There is wonderful serenity that comes with letting go.
What we can do is hold space,
act in kind to ourselves and others,
remain present with our intentions,
and trust that our highest option
is on its way.
Source is always the most capable of choosing the most divine option,
for Source is the only one that can see all of the options.
All that matters, is that when the opportunity arrives,
we are brave enough to act upon it.
I find that there is a red flag
that seems to be a close companion
of justification and creating scenarios.
I like to call it:
If one has a case of the "Uh Oh's,"
the most prominent symptom is a constant mental leap to every situation's
"worst case scenario."
An ego displaying this particular habit can be quite sneaky indeed,
for it is very likely that the ego is able to justify them,
beyond refute, in their eyes,
by claiming that it is simply aiming to be
"prepared for anything."
when we display an "Uh Oh" response,
we are bracing for something that hasn't even happened.
If we choose to change our way of thinking,
it does not mean that we have to be "ignorant" or "naive" to negative possibilities.
It is important that we do not repress any thought that we have,
even these potentially harmful ones.
What is more important, however,
is that we take the time to lift them properly from our field.
There is an meditation exercise that outlines this process below.
For now, I would like to provide a few clear examples
of what it looks like to experience the "Uh Oh's."
EXAMPLE NO. 1
I hear that someone has said something about me,
however I did not hear it strait from them;
therefore I was not able to interpret their tone or use my intuition.
My first thought is
"Uh-oh, this is going to cause a riff."
Now, if I let that thought spiral around in my head without taking the responsibility to
you best believe that the next time I see that person,
the only thing that I will be able to think about regarding them,
is how our next meeting is going to get uncomfortable.
When I see this person,
I will want to first and foremost
and confront this person
If it doesn't come up right away,
I will not able to be present with this person,
for all I will be thinking about is
how I am going to bring it up.
When I do bring it up, my voice will be shaky,
and even if I ask rather than accuse,
and my tone and energy will already be defensive and accusatory,
and they will subconsciously pick up on this,
and they will become defensive too.
And this will lead exactly to our "worst case scenario" expectation.
EXAMPLE NO. 2
I am driving and I hear a noise,
and I assume or worry immediately that it is my car.
Now, until the time that I figure out that it is not my car,
I am stacking this 'event' on top of everything else that I have to "deal with,"
and I start thinking about all of those things;
How I "don't have the money to do this and that, let alone get my car worked on."
I may think about how I have an event that I am 'expected' to be at
and how difficult it is going to be to get there without my car.
I may even go so far as to guess at what the problem might be,
and attempt to calculate how much it will cost to fix.
... And all of this is done under stress.
Stress 'costs' your body, no matter if the cause is actual or theoretical.
So, even when I am relieved to deduce that it is not, in fact, my car making the noise;
I have far less energy than before I heard the noise.
In order to begin to remedy our case of the "Uh Oh's,"
we must first acknowledge the fact that
they aren't doing us any favors.
Your ego is clinging to the idea that it is in control,
and this is inadvertently getting in the way of living.
The "Uh Oh's" are also acting on a
fear of success.
This fear almost seems silly;
we're all aiming to be successful, right?
When we always look to the worst case scenarios,
not only are we worried for/attracting them,
we are also in the habit of measuring how much energy something would take
before we even give it a try.
Since we are already drained from thinking about worst-case-scenarios,
we feel like we have less energy to try something new:
And thus the cycle perpetuates.
The "Uh Oh's" not only hold us back from success,
they also are subliminally doubting your ability to be exceptional.
If this stirs something up in you,
I would implore you to take some time to sit with it,
even if it is uncomfortable...
Especially because it is uncomfortable.
We are all capable of anything,
but all we need to do right now
is take a step.
Instead of remaining in these cycles,
I invite you to dream awake your perfect life.
I invite you to do so in a manner that is free of expectation,
and in a manner that does not doubt your ability to make this your reality.
I invite you to believe in your capacity to do great things, one step at a time.
Try This Meditation
*Note: Meditation does not always require closed eyes and crossed legs; it requires commitment and concentration. If you are confronted with a feeling that you need to clear and you are, for example, driving a car- it is more important to do what you can to lift the feeling in that moment than it would be to put it off until you can properly meditate. You can always process your feelings further at a later time, however it is important to banish negativity from your field as soon as you detect it.
Inner-Personal Growth Dialogue
Now take a moment to thing of the VERY FIRST STEP.
Do you have the materials to create with?
Do you have products already made?
Who and where are the people whom would love your product?
What are your online (Etsy, Amazon, Ebay, Fiverr) and local (Farmer's Markets, small consignment shops, events) resources and platforms?
Are you certified for a service?
What would it take to get certified? (There are MANY online options in that can legally certify you for various things. Generally, the online options are bother faster, and WAY less expensive. Sometimes it's free!)
Do you have a website? (There are many FREE website generators, including Weebly which is extremely user friendly, especially if it is your first time.)
Can you commit some of your spare time to chipping away at these things that will make your dreams come true? No expectations, just faith and surrender.
Can you let go of your fears of why any of this could or would not work, and simply give it a try?
Can you accept that we were brought here for an agenda HIGHER than that of other humans' expectations for us- to just be another cog in a money machine? Can you accept that the REAL agenda is for us to align ourselves with our highest, and THRIVE. That we can have wealth, and that it would be better off in our hands than the hands of big bankers?
Can you accept that you are a powerful and capable person? You are. <3