"FACTS:" Scrutinized definitions and stories written or declared in a different time period, by someone whose experiences are completely different from our own.
If we subscribe to these "facts," we enable:
"JUDGEMENT:" a language human expectation, consisting of words like 'should' and 'should not,' 'is' and 'is not,' 'normal' and 'strange,' 'proper' and improper.' Judgement is an example of the human ego-trip that leads us to believe that we have the right, even the obligation to DEFINE THINGS and set PARAMETERS that are conducive to our comfort zone. In reality, judgement is but a dirty habit we have yet to break.
Furthermore, once we are aware that our true purpose is attainable through our highest selves, our outward projections of consciousness serve as helpful clues. For example, you feel that someone is judging you, it would be appropriate to ask yourself the following questions: What lesson/divine knowledge is this person ignoring in order to justify judging me? Is it something about me that makes this person uncomfortable with them-self? How is this person me- how am I judgmental? Why does this bother me? Where does it ORIGINATE? These are questions to be asking ones self every time something comes up in your personal field that does not resonate with you. This part is one's own journey. It is also relevant to state thus: We are all the essence of each other, and the things that we see and feel are seen and felt by others in different ways, in order to portray the SAME messages and themes. Whether or not we know it, we are all going through this together. Each of these internal and external conflicts derive from deep origins, and are alive in each of our consciousness.
Lilith and Eve: Divided From Day One.
Let us start with one of the written beginnings of humankind. Most of us have heard the story of Adam and Eve, but fewer of us are aware of the true origin of a woman named Lilith.
Lilith was created at the same time as Adam- making her both the first incarnated woman and Adam's equal. IF Lilith is found in text, it usually says only that Lilith was unwilling to be subservient to Adam. More specifically, she refused to lie underneath him during intercourse. Seems like small beans, right? Apparently not, for Lilith was then banished from the Garden, and her name slandered with connotations of evil. To me, this sounds like it escalated fairly quickly. Upon more pondering, I was led to believe that a few things may have occurred:
1.) Adam, perhaps new to his testosterone and not yet learned in the essence of the Goddess, had an EXPECTATION that he should be on top during sex.
2.) Lilith, new to her emotions as well, REACTED, rather than responded. It is said that after she was exiled from the Garden, Adam begged her to come back to no avail.
3.) The disagreement was based limited to a very black and white perspective; that when it came to intercourse, it was either top or bottom. Now, I know that this was a new practice for the both of them, however if Adam and Lilith had taken a breather and begun to think creatively, they would have realized that there are infinite ways to have sex. This limited scope led to a disagreement that could have been avoided, and birthed a very black and white mindset. It also birthed a hierarchical way of thinking; one was either superior or inferior, on the top or the bottom, but never regarded as equal.
Now, this is not to say that these stories are true or untrue. These stories are simply TOLD and REGARDED as true. If not confronted, they may still fester deep in our psyche (the collective consciousness). So, with this in mind, let us continue.
To this day, if Lilith is acknowledged at all, she is JUDGED as the wild woman. Of course, the church has taken it so far as to spread the idea that she is a DEMON. Archangel Samael, whom Lilith went on to marry, is sometimes referred to as the Devil himself. Of course, the church (as well as many humans) feels the need to assert their "official word" on most everything; especially when it comes to slandering women that participate in any form of sexual conduct. This seems to be an obvious example of shaming.
Eve on the other hand, has a different story. She was said to have been created OF ADAM'S OWN RIB. IE, Eve was said to have been created from MAN, not GOD. This is a statement that could have been subliminally dis-empowering women since we began telling the story of humankind. It has been implied that women have ALWAYS been inferior. This message requires some serious attention in order to clear; as it has been deeply seeded in our DNA for a long time.
Eve was made of Adam's rib to ensure that she would be better suited to please him; to be submissive to him. Since duality had already arisen in consciousness, however, she could not bear only the traits that Adam sought. We know how the story goes: Eve was led into temptation, ate from the tree of knowledge, and thus condemned all of humankind to a life of sin. Now, that's a pretty heavy accusation.
In my perspective, Eve stands for:
(In the positive) COMPASSIONATE, NURTURING, GENTLE, FERTILE
(In the negative)
NAIVE, SUBMISSIVE, THE MARTYR, PASSIVE
These stories beg further questions from within my being. Were these beings the original incarnates, or the original lies? What stands out to me in these stories is that WOMAN is divided immediately. If we accept these ideas (and potentially, even if we were unaware of them- they are still playing like records in the collective consciousness), then our power is immediately split in half. Were these stories concocted to deliberately dis-empower women? Was it a story written once man understood that their agenda would be compromised given the strong moral compass and compassion that comes with powerful feminine energy?
A woman does not need to choose between confidence and compassion, between standing on her own two feet and having a nurturing heart. Whether women began their walk on this planet as a divided entity or not, we were given this challenge because we have the capacity to transcend it. We must accept our potential to RISE ABOVE this idea of limitation.
I believe these early depictions of women still weigh on our psyche. Lilith, on one hand, was DEMONIZED for having free will. She was slandered for having the gall to not accept a life that did not suit her. We find this idea manifesting in society: We feel cornered into maintaining jobs and images of 'normalcy' that do not fulfill us. I feel the story of Lilith traces back the guilt shaming of independent women to its very roots. She was not acting inside of the perimeters that man dubbed 'correct conduct,' so she was exiled.
On the other hand, Eve perhaps got the worst rap of all. Not only is she BLATANTLY depicted as a lesser being because she was created of man, she also has the entire burden of mankind living in sin over her head. We have witnessed an extreme imbalance of feminine energy up until perhaps the last five or ten years. We of course witness this in the form of seizing land and creating borders, war mongering and hierarchy. Though men are now becoming HUMBLED to the power and grace of the divine feminine, as well as more connected to our Mother Earth, subliminal dominant language still exists. It can be as simple as being interrupted by someone speaking louder than us in order to assert dominance. Sometimes, it is so subtle that we begin to feel a pang, followed by a constricted feeling over our heart chakra, and we don't know why. Remember, you are blessed with a firm subtlety; use your finesse to stand your ground firmly in a place of compassion. If you feel like your emotions have been triggered, take a deep breath and count to ten (you won't lose your thought process, it will only become clearer). Reacting from a place of emotion, rather than responding, leads to unnecessary escalation. Above all, remember to be kind and nurturing to your self.
Now, lets bring it home. It is important to have the knowledge, but it is ESSENTIAL to integrate it. Take the time to reflect on how these ancient stories could be related to inner term-oil. In what ways do you find yourself feeling divided between the archetypal personalities on Lilith and Eve? How is this manifesting in your life? In what ways do you feel like you haven't fully stepped into your power? Do you harvest anger towards men (or women) whom you feel try and dominate or control situations? Are you allowing yourself to be dominated in some way? Do not be afraid to be real with yourself- anything that can be seen can be healed.
Try This Meditation:
Get your family and friends involved! Create a "Sorry Jar:" Every time someone apologizes for themselves unnecessarily, have them put a quarter in the jar. Think of something empowering/ rejuvenating to do with the accumulated funds.